This is not a political post. I am using examples.
I never heard the term more since the Election of 2016 started a year ago. I didn’t understand the term until now and I have to say even though I am not a particular fan of either candidate, but I have a lot of respect for someone who can stand there and have mansplaining done on a regular basis with a stoic stance and smile. I feel your pain Hillary I do…I have mansplaining done to me everyday and I can’t imagine having it done in the public eye on that level.
(of a man) explain (something) to someone, typically a woman, in a manner regarded as condescending or patronizing.“I’m listening to a guy mansplain economics to his wife”
I think the term has been used for as long as men have been assholes, but this term really has become prevalent this year. I don’t know why but I will say most not all of the men in my life have manslaining up a storm lately, and I frankly can’t take any more. I am putting my foot down and saying NO more. Do not speak to me like that anymore. I don’t know why you think you can say, “When are you getting a job Alexis?” Condescending tone duly noted SIR. Uhhh…When are you getting hair, but you don’t hear me complain do you??? No…leave me alone. My bills are paid, my kids happy and healthy and I’m actually enjoying this time with them while I look for something more appropriate for our lives and schedules.
See my late husband didn’t speak to me that way or to anyone on that way so for ten years I was used to being spoken to like an equal not an opponent or “woman”. Whatever that means. He respected me and thus therefore spoke to me that way. My question is….Where are all these men learning this language? That brings me to language…who uses the word “pussy” to describe a woman is a buffoon. His mother obviously didn’t teach him manners. If a man ever spoke that word to me I would slap the shit out of him.
Since we are on the subject of female genitalia. Guys don’t use that word even if you are with your ‘bros’ have some damn respect for women and see us for more than what we are. We are more than just a vagina. We have careers, jobs, children, families, emotions., great friends and great lives. You wouldn’t bother to see that though cause your too busy texting 3,568 other girls and swiping right to see that we are more than tits and ass jackass. We don’t treat you like you are just a dick do we? No we actually bother to get to know your lazy asses, who are 32 years old still lives with mom and smokes a shit ton of weed, ,and plays Xbox all day, but yet you’re the catch! *Thumbs up*
The subject of my relationship status seems to come up all the damn time. Yes people I am still single. No I am not still sad over my husband, and yes I am open to dating. Just because I don’t have a boyfriend on your timetable doesn’t mean shit. I’m looking for a guy on my level. I want someone who can stimulate me mentally, physically and emotionally. And mostly someone who can make me laugh. I want to laugh everyday. Just cause you have a dick doesn’t mean you will suffice. I’m more than just a vagina as well. I also have feelings, emotions, and a great life with great kids and friends. I am also smart and I know exactly what I want. Do not think because I am not saying anything all the time doesn’t mean I am an idiot. I see everything. I listen. I read. I engulf knowledge. But again you wouldn’t know that because of the previous paragraph above. *Rolls Eyes*
I appreciate people in my life who are my friends and do it without having to throw it in my face everything they did for me. I love my girlfriends and my guy friends. If you don’t like something I’m doing…keep it to yourself. I don’t say anything when you hook up with a woman that everyone thought was a hooker…but hey its your life! Go for it! I think we all have a journey and path. I am on mine…I may make a mistake every now and then but those are mine to make. Don’t sit there and mansplain to me why i have to listen to you and my decisions are not what you would do. THANKS for the heads up sir….now that you lectured me on why you know everything I’m done. *Deletes Text*
Oh and guys this is really annoying. Don’t mansplain to me why you think I am so pretty, gorgeous, adorable, and sweet. “If you weren’t my friend I would try to date you right now. Uhhhh what the fuck does that mean?? Thanks??? …meanwhile your girlfriend is blowing up your phone. *Again rolling my eyes* What the fuck? Do you think I am an idiot?? I know you have a girlfriend dumb ass. You literally sit there and try to convince me of this and all the while I’m just making a grocery list in my head. Don’t touch me. Don’t put your hand on my thigh…because I laughed at something stupid you said wasn’t an invitation. Don’t even and when I said. “Back the fuck up.” I meant it. Personal fucking space bro. Do you like it when girls hang all over you? ehhh..never mind…but I do not I’m not a piece of meat asshole. Again read above.
The moral of this fairy tale is that women appreciate being treated respectfully in a debate, conversation, sharing of information or just plain hanging out with friends. Don’t be a dick and mansplain to make your self feel smarter if a woman is intimidating you in the conversation. Be a man and find a way to challenge her and buck up if you can’t. Better get out there and start reading or finding out what it is women are reading that has you so intimidated. Guarantee you will encounter another woman who will be knowledgeable after all its becoming a woman’s world.